I have a challenge with an adult woman pulling out the consent card in a relationship where she has been intimate with a man.

I always wondered how an adult of sound mind can go to a single man's house, even stay overnight, and expect not to be asked for a "bite"-the bite that gave us the word "chewing," or "kukulana" in Kiswahili.

I later realised that consent is complex for adults with agency, and nonexistent where a minor is involved.

That is why I understand when a lady brings a friend to a date; she doesn't feel safe enough.